How frequently does pornography factor into divorce?

From a meeting held by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, compulsive pornography consumption factored into 56% of all divorces. As there are more than 1 million divorces in the United States per year, more than 500,000 marriages end because of pornography.

When finding their partners consuming pornography, studies have found that women largely feel betrayed, mistrust, anger, despair, and loss.

The next question, then, is whether pornography consumption occurs as a symptom to an unhappy marriage, or whether the pornography consumption itself is a catalyst to an unhappy marriage. Per sociologist Samuel Perry, he believes that there is enough data in surveys and studies to suggest causation in these findings, meaning that pornography consumption is a precursor to divorce. This directional analysis is supported by pornography expert, Ana J. Bridges.

When women in marriages stop watching pornography, their divorce rates decrease from 18% to 6%. As for men, surveys and studies were inconclusive because the majority of them would not stop consuming pornography. However, it is worth noting that men who had affairs were three times as likely to be a consumer of pornography, and men who paid for sex with a prostituted person were four times as likely to be a consumer of pornography.

Furthermore, of women who divorced due to the sexual violence perpetrated against them by their husbands, upwards of 1/3 said that pornography had played a direct role in their being sexually abused.

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Anti-porn is anti-oppression

I have a friend in the film industry, known for his controversial and politically-charged horror films.  He’s adamant that pornography is inherently harmless and that maintaining an anti-porn perspective is pro-censorship. He challenged some of my anti-porn peers as being moralistic, a distinctly dismissive approach that discredits their researched knowledge, their shared experiences, and their collective wisdom. For all of the fierce anti-oppression intelligence on display in his work, his words were a reminder of how deeply the pornography industry has entrenched itself as underdogs in the battle against oppressive regimes around the globe. Instead of striking at him, I attempted to engage him.

Here is my response.

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Hey ________.

I think you and I may forever be in a tango of death about the function of media! But that’s okay. Discussion is good and discussion is important; let’s not simplify our arguments by suggesting me or the women with whom you are arguing are simple moralists on a censorship crusade. Our perspectives are informed by knowledge, and in the case of women (at least as a class), these perspectives are also informed by experience. Please be respectful around these issues with my friends; they are good people.

My perspectives on pornography, prostitution, gender, race, and how sexual violence is depicted in media are largely informed by the social and cultural impact of all of the above, namely in the ways in which it manifests as furthering oppression against women and against women of color. Ours is not an anti-sex position. This is an anti-oppression position. This is an anti-propaganda position. This is a political position.

In pornography, 94% of the violence is perpetrated against women by men. This is not an accident – this is telling a story. When this story is repeated, over and over again, history tells us what happens: people believe it. So when pornography is usually violent against women and usually depicts women enjoying the violence, it works like propaganda and people believe it. There has been demonstrable evidence linking “gangbang” videos to increasing rates of men committing group rape against women. This is not me being moralistic: this is me speaking from empirical reality.

From your perspective, perhaps it looks like censorship and hence, it feels like oppression. I do not know the nuances of the way you think and how your art is created. But I do know that you are political and I hope that you can understand, from a political perspective (if not a social and cultural and anti-oppression perspective) that ours is a position that is extremely political in that it is anti-propagandist and anti-oppression. The art that comes from the women and men in the anti-oppression of women movement (including horror!) will inevitably look and feel different from the art that comes from the side of the oppressors.

As an artist that has a lot of influence over film audiences, I hope that instead of painting our side as moralist, you can at least move towards ambivalence and recognize that, at its core, we are

1) Anti-violence against women
2) Anti-trafficking of women and children
3) Anti-oppression

It might not evolve in the form that you like, but it is informed by science, by history, and by testimony.

We can tango to death all we like. But I know that you want the world to be a better place. So do I. Please consider that the women with whom I am aligning are likely more capable of creating that better world than the men who currently run it.

How are children accidentally exposed to online pornography?

Children are accidentally exposed to online pornography through a variety of methods, likely intended by the pornography industry. In fact, upwards of 74% of all pornography websites display sexual content before asking if the viewers are of legal age.

(I recently disabled image loading in my browser [Chrome] when going to a porn site to do a video title analysis. My efforts did nothing to prevent pornography ads and short pornographic videos from visually displaying as soon as I arrived on the site.)

Children are accidentally exposed to pornography via the following routines:

Links from innocent word searches. (40%)
Clicking on a link to another site. (17%)
Pop-ups. (14%)
Other. (13%)
Misspelled web addresses. (12%)
They don’t know / don’t remember. (4%)

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What do you want to know about pornography? Just ask.